So for many, the thought of using self-help or motivational materials to boost your life seems like a last resort, that last push you give yourself with little or no hope that it'll make a difference to your life which is inevitably spiraling towards a pit of doom. I have a strong image of Luke Danes sitting in his apartment cringing to the volume at which the man on the tape yells "LAAAHHHVE!" And the majority of us believe that we're better than these things, that we don't need the help and we refuse to believe that we'll gain anything from such people, a distant voice telling us how to live our lives when they don't know the first thing about us!
But it's become increasingly transparent to me that we're all much more similar than we'd care to admit. There's an addiction to being unique, to being mentally strong and not requiring external help, that our situations and life states are "just fine" and don't need to be meddled with. But becoming disturbed and embracing interruption in your everyday life and analysing the ways in which you could BE better; for yourself, your future, your family, your partner, your career - there's a multitude of things, ranging from simple habits to drastic actions, that allow you to focus on the important aspects and draw your focus and concentration away from the petty, the insignificant. For example, in analysing my situation two weeks ago, I was lazy with my nutrition, with my sleeping patterns, with my involvement in study and I was lacking in motivation at work. And I was absolutely okay with it. And here's the problem - not that we are ignorant, because we're not; and not because we're unaware, because we are most definitely aware of the things we could be doing better. So the question is, WHY do we spend so much effort and time and money on the wrong things, on fixing problems that wouldn't exist if we took the time to address the root of it all? Why are we spending time testing light reflecting concealers in department stores and forking out $60 for the 5mL bottle of Dior product when we could just stop wasting our time doing jack all and sleeping instead?
I have my beautiful boyfriend to thank for allowing me to stop cutting myself short. Because in allowing ourselves to develop expectations in fear that we'll be met with disappointment, we're limiting our capabilities, our opportunities, our potential to throw ourselves wholeheartedly into a venture which could be the greatest thing we seek for this life we've been blessed with.
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